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The Erotic Toys and Sex Accessories Couples Really Love!

In order to get comfortable with yourself, masturbate on your own to learn about the kind of sex toy and stimulation you like the best. If you're new to the experience, check out For Yourself for some suggestions on how to get started. Many women have more orgasmic response with clitoral stimulation. Most vibrators are specifically designed for the clitoris. But you'll find there are many options beyond that. You can get a penis shaped vibe that you can insert vaginally, or to apply directly to your clit, or a dual vibe that simultaneously vibrates you vaginally and clitorally. You'll also want to experiment with the type of vibration as well.

It's usually easier to experiment on your own through masturbation and then apply that to your partnered relationship. However, that doesn't work for everyone. Sometimes there is the concern that masturbating with a toy without the involvement of your partner gives the impression that you didn't "need" them sexually anymore, some even equate it to cheating on their partners. Sex toys are not meant to replace anyone, they can be used to expand and enrich your sex life. And there are many men who are tired of initiating everything sexual in their relationships; in fact it would be a turn on for them to have their partner add something new. I can't tell you how many men have come to me complaining that their girlfriends and wives never initiate anything new into their sexual relationships.

Ultimately, you know your relationship best. If your partner is someone you feel comfortable enough with to just surprise them one evening then go for it. If you're concerned about one of the issues above perhaps shop for a vibe together, get your partner involved in the process. You can both begin to experiment in the ways you'd like to use toys. Some get aroused watching their partners use a sex toy in front of them. It's a great way to teach them how to use the vibe on you. Consider it a project you can do together.

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-The Flutter Bug: is a good couples toy to start with. Worn around the waist and thighs it allows for easy penetration, while she gets focused clitoral vibes and vulva massage during intercourse, he gets vibrations on his shaft, all hands-free.Combine safe sex with mild vibrations for both partners.

-Elexa Vibrating Ring (with condom): is a soft ring powered by an ultra-light battery designed to enhance pleasure for both partners. Each package also contains one premium Elexa latex condom. Elexa is a full line of sexual well-being products from the makers of Trojan brand condoms, created to provide safe sex with the freedom to more fully enjoy sex. Batteries are included (lasts for 20 min). Vibrating ring is one time use only (or two short ones).

Finding ways to bring up the subject of using a sex toy may be difficult. Many people find just bringing up the subject intimidating. Even couples with the best communication skills find it difficult to discuss sex. Perhaps you can whisper the idea in your partner's ear during your next sexual encounter, bring up that you've fantasized about s/he using a vibrator on you, or go on-line and begin exploring the world of sex toys one evening over a glass of wine.

Communicating your sexual desires can not only bring you more sexual satisfaction but can also deepen your relationship as a whole. It can bring you both to a new level of intimacy that you can explore together. Adding a toy to your sexual repertoire is a good place to start.

Anal Pleasure

Tips for the Beginner...

Have you ever felt a finger brush up against your "puckered jewel" during the height of arousal and had the secret wish that maybe your partner would know what you were thinking and explore it just a little more.

Many folks have discovered the erotic pleasures of anal play. Any toy used anally should have a flared base to keep it from slipping all the way into the rectum. For an in/out sensation, look for a toy that is the same diameter all along the shaft (a dildo , for example). If you want to leave your toy in place while you do other things, look for a plug that bulges just before the base, allowing your anal muscles to grip it. And use lube, lots of it. The anus is not self-lubricating, so a thick, stay-put lube will make any anal play more pleasurable.

Whether you want to tease the sensitive nerve endings around the anus or stimulate the prostate, just remember these three tips: relax, use lubricant, and if inserting, use toys with a flared base.

Aneros: More intense orgasms and multiple orgasms in men have been credited to prostate stimulation. The Aneros is anatomically designed to massage the prostate from three sides. The main arm massages the prostate directly while a second arm stimulates the other side by tickling the perineum. A curly handle allows for easy penetration, removal, and manipulation alone or by a partner. Women find it also a pleasure both anally and vaginally.

Essential Plug: Eminently comfortable, this anal plug's diamond-like shape anchors it in place so you're free to go about your business. The small size makes a great beginner's plug, or you can buy all three and have fun working your way up.

Buddy: Lots of people like to "wear" an anal toy in place, so this type of toy is called a "plug," you push it inside the rectum and leave it there, rather than moving it in and out. This gives a feeling of fullness and stimulates the prostate. Plugs like this one usually have a bulge above the base, which helps keep them securely inside. I like this toy because it's a modest size and is made of silicone, which is pliable, warms quickly, and is very easy to clean.

Ripple: Fusing the best of traditional plugs and anal beads, the graduated contours of this anal toy make it a perfect choice both for those experimenting and for those well-versed in anal play. Made of sleek and flexible silicone in a gorgeous midnight purple.

Jewel Butt Plug, the glass anal dildo: When you consider the evolution of butt plugs, pyrex seems like the next logical step. Glass butt plugs have proven to be far superior than plastic or rubber. The sanitary aspect of pyrex butt plugs is the biggest advantage. They're cleaner, easier to keep clean and won't stain or retain odors. You'll love the super smooth glass combined with your favorite lube, they glide in effortlessly and have a wide base for better control.

Crystal G: Smooth and sleek, this hard dildo's angled side offers precise G-Spot stimulation. The other side is nicely ribbed for vaginal and anal enjoyment. The crystal-like material is naturally erotic, opening all sorts of possibilities for use by yourself, and with your partner. Rose-colored and made of non-breakable acrylic.

Zing: The Zing is a step up in size from a beginner's butt plug-but not too big either. This quality silicone anal toy is tapered at the tip for easy entry and ribbed along the body for extra sensation. A mini bullet vibrator fits into a notch at the bottom, which can detach and be used to stimulate other areas as well.

Anal Douche: Clean allows you to feel more relaxed. And relaxed is what you want to feel with anal play. Non long tubes. A compact easy-to-use douche that sprays enough water to make you feel fresh and open. It also can be used to start the relaxing process. Water fillable douche is easy to assemble and clean. Glow-in-the-Dark spike!

Clit Friendly Toys

Clitoral vibrators are powered either by electricity or batteries, and can be used in all sorts of way to improve your experience and enjoyment of orgasms. Though many people think, at first glance, that vibrators are meant primarily for penetration, most women find that they work best for clitoral stimulation, since that's where most of your nerve endings are, and the clitoris is highly responsive to vibration. Many women find that using a vibrator allows for longer, stronger clitoral stimulation that can take them over the top, often multiple times.. If you like a very focused touch, look for a vibrator with a smaller tip; if you don't like direct clitoral stimulation, try a vibrator with a bigger head that will spread out sensations.

The following clitoral vibrators are designed to help you get vibrations on just the right spot:

Hitachi Magic Wand: I've often wondered if Hitachi has any idea how many orgasms their powerful "massager" has launched across the world. The Wand is not marketed as a sex toy, but millions of women will tell you that this is the only toy for them. What's so magical about the Wand?

The vibrations are powerful. This appeals to women who want to orgasm with little effort, who want to shoot for multiple orgasms, who like a just-before bed-time quickie, or who need extra stimulation to climax during partner sex. The vibrations spread out over the vulva. The tennis-ball-sized head makes contact with much more surface area than most vibrators.

Wahl Personal Massager: This vibrator holds a special place in my heart because it was the first one I ever owned. For decades this type of vibrator has been marketed as a "beauty aid" with advertising images of fresh-faced maidens pressing the tip against their cheeks (their face cheeks, you naughties!). But legions of adventurous women have moved the vibrator to regions farther south, discovering that the super- focused, moderate vibrations feel heavenly on one's clitoris. 

This toy looks nothing like a traditional phallic toy, with a handle much like that on a hair dryer, and a small vibrating tip that accommodates a variety of attachments. I've found that this model makes a great gift for vibrator novices, who might be put off by more explicit-looking toys. It also happens to be one of the quietest toys you'll ever run across, just the ticket if thin walls or curious kids abound in your house.

Eroscillator 2 Plu: An unusual and clever invention from France, the Eroscillator offers a vibration that is compelling without being overpowering. This light-weight, quiet vibrator, endorsed by Dr. Ruth, wins fans because it moves side to side (kind of like an electric toothbrush) providing a gentle motion like a loving finger, rather than a pounding up and down like an ordinary vibrator. 

Actually the Eroscillator is not a vibrator as it oscillates rather than vibrates The sensation is different, and effective for those that want a more gentle natural movement. 

Before we move onto batter operated clit vibes, I have to point out two top of the line gems:

Lily - Rechargeable Vibrator: Though stripped down in appearance, the Lily is loaded when it comes to performance. This rechargeable gem from Sweden has a smooth and silky pearlescent surface, and gently curves to accommodate all those special places. It's small enough to fit into the palm of your hand. But don't under estimate the power of this beauty. The Lily transmits ultra-strong, ultra-quiet vibrations exactly where you want them. Rechargeable, the Lily vibrator has an amazing 7 hour battery life, and a travel lock to prevent unwanted vibrations when you travel! 

Audi-oh - Personal Vibrator: Orgasm to the sound of music! The Audio-oh is a vibrator that responds to sound, and since sex and music go hand in hand, it's about time someone got this combo right. Whether you're singing karaoke into the microphone, or like me, you've got it plugged it into a walkman playing Prince's "Get Off", you're going to get off if you're a music loving masturbator. The kit comes with the controller (a little black box), plus a bullet vibrator, and a strap-on rubber clit toy. The option to switch the vibration to a steady rhythm if the beat is too distracting is a nice touch. A great toy for solo or couple's play.

Clitoral/G-spot Vibrator: A favorite in Japan, this new play toy with small, jelly clitoral nodules will keep you satisfied with tingling vibes to the clitoris, the G-Spot and to the sensitive labia. Smart looking and sexy as sin. Vibrating protrusions encompass the clitoris while it's curved design is meant to find the G-Spot. This sculpted dildo allows for satisfying feeling of fullness. It's ergonomically correct-easily controlled and has an easy handle for thrusting. Adjustable vibration levels makes it great for everyone.

Bullet Vibrator: One of the earliest vibrators on the market, the Bullet continues to win praise for its versatility as both a clitoral and a vaginal vibrator. Press the Bullet against the clit or insert it vaginally to experiment with G-spot stimulation. The Bullet is one of my favorite clit vibes; it's simple, inexpensive, reliable, and is not at all intimidating. This is especially important when bringing a toy into couples play for the first time. 

Elite 7: Talking about couples; this versatile vibe is super stretchy and has superior silicone enhancers to stimulate him and her together. He wears it as a vibrating cock ring and she experiences those necessary vibrations against her clitoris during intercourse. Seven functions of vibration, pulsation and escalation that will bring you to the edge of pleasure and back. Powerful removable micro bullets with easy one touch activation may be used with or without enhancers on any erogenous zone.